“I often hear the voice of my intuition. But it constantly contradicts the voice of reason. So every time, I take reason’s side. And most of the time I later realize that intuition was right. But I keep doing the same thing. I can’t even explain why.”
In fact, the explanation is right on the surface. Intuition speaks to us in the language of sensations. To hear its voice, you need to be relaxed and attentive; otherwise it gets through the tension only in the most critical moments, when intuition is literally screaming. And even when intuition’s signal is heard, it still has to be translated into the language of logic and facts that the mind understands. And after that, you have to trust intuition, because it offers no proof and no arguments.
The voice of reason doesn’t need to break through into the mind; it’s already there from the start. You don’t need to listen for it, and you don’t need to translate it. And it never lacks arguments. The human mind is a master at finding arguments for just about anything.
Here’s the main thing: the language of the mind is the language of experience. It draws conclusions from the past, from what it knows.
The body’s patterns were formed on the basis of that same experience, the experience of situations you faced in the past. So the body always takes the mind’s side.
And this support from experience recorded in the body usually decides the dispute between mind and intuition in advance. Later, when the decision is made, the result is in, and nothing can be changed, in a calm setting, when the body’s tension doesn’t kick in, the mind can see quite soberly that the situation was different from the past and called for a different response. But such clear-headedness is only possible in hindsight. And until the decision is made, the importance and the responsibility don’t let you relax. So the body sends signals of habitual tension, the kind that helps you react not to what is, but to what used to be.
I can find these tensions in the body with my hands and ease them. And this gradually brings back the freedom of choice. The past, often a negative one, stops deciding for you. And past experience itself stops being a state you’re still reliving and becomes a lesson learned, one you can apply when it fits or ignore when it’s about something else.